Overcoming Insecurity
September 8th, 2025
Own it and accept it.
Why?
Let me flip the question back on you, what do you want to do with your insecurity?
Overcome it.
How so? That could mean many things. Say, you've told me you're insecure about your big nose, do you want to get a rhinoplasty, or do you want to learn to love your big nose?
Plastic surgery.
And what happens when you get old, and your face wrinkles? Will you become insecure about that as well?
Yes, well, I don't want to look old.
What's your plan then?
Plastic surgery again!
And when you're close to your deathbed, and all is for nothing, what then?
I don't want to die.
Well, of course not, me neither. But this process of things going wrong with you or your body is never going to end, agreed?
Well, yeah. I mean, if it is wrong with my body then it is wrong with my body, right?
Sure, you feel wrong with your body.
No, I don't just feel that way. It is something wrong with my body.
I see. If that's the case I don't have anything to convince you otherwise.
Then I'll just have to suffer in misery.
Right, you will.
...Don't you care?
Well, I do, but not in the sense I'm going to try and stop you. It's your decision after all.
What do you mean?
That it's your choice.
What do you mean? You're pissing me off. It's not my choice to have a wrinkly old body with a big fat nose. What the hell are you on about?
I'm saying it's your choice to care about that sort of stuff.
No it's not! This society values beauty and all that stuff. It stresses me out, and I'm lonely, and I can't even deal with all that bullshit going on. I can't I can't I can't. Everyone is always judging me.
I go out, I just want a nice person to just ask me out. But I'm just ugly and I can't deal with it. What the hell are you saying I have a choice? You think I have a choice being ugly? You think being alone is a choice? Fuck you!
I'm not saying that's your choice. That's true. But it's your choice to either be upset at the world and pushback, or accept and own what the world's given you.
That's not fair!
I agree, it's not fair.
That's a loser's mentality. To just lie down and take it on the chin. That's so bullshit. You need to fight back, to do everything you can to empower yourself and and and—
No. I'm saying, do you care about this stuff? What other people tell you is a loser or not loser? How other people treat you ugly or beautiful?
Well, yes, I have to, I have to because because because—
Because what exactly?
Because I don't to die alone, and I don't want to starve! Don't you see I have to appeal to the people around me so that I can survive?
Well, you don't necessarily have to do that either.
You're telling me to just go die.
Precisely, actually.
But that's stupid, what about, what about all this, you don't know anything about life after death, you don't know anything about dying. You don't know—
Right, I don't.
I don't get where you're getting at.
I'm saying that you always have a choice to make. Don't corner yourself into believing you don't. And don't let society corner you into thinking you don't as well.
What?
You can choose to care about certain things or not. You can choose to live a certain way or not. All these things are within your choice.
Say, your big nose. You could say it's a problem. Or you could not. Or you could accept that you're insecure with your big nose. "I'm insecure about my big nose." And then, well, just leave it at that.
The same with your future wrinkles. And with your job. And with your life really. Accept it. Own it. That's what I mean. Own your insecurity, own your choice, and you will find yourself having overcome it.
So I own my insecurity...
Precisely.
I am insecure about my big nose.
Yes.
That's it?
Yeah.
B-but what about—
Sure.
Oh. You're not going to disagree with me?
Not at all. Everything you mentioned afterwards, yeah. It's true. And?
Oh. Uhm, I don't know.
I think you're starting to get the hang of it.
Can I get a rhinoplasty now?
Only if you choose to.