Why people aren't empathetic when you tell them trauma
February 8th, 2025
I used to be the same way and not care when someone shared their feelings with me. I invalidated those feelings and lashed back.
I think the reason why is because I was uncomfortable with my own feelings and trauma. I kept thinking how unfair and unfair it was I had to go through all this, and then this person comes up with not even "that bad of a trauma" and it makes me angry that I'm trying this hard and they come in and act like they have it bad.
But the reality of it is that it's all bad. And the reality of it is that I kept trying to reject the reality of how I felt and that made me uncomfortable around the reality of how other people feel.
Now that I've accepted all that I feel, the good and the bad, I can control the intensity and expression, I feel like my emotional regulation skills are slowly improving. I'm getting back to life.